My current management problem began a few weeks ago and will be continuing until November 14, 2009. That's the day my sister is getting married. The wedding isn't for a good 13 months, yet wedding planning has begun. So since I'm maid of honor, apparently my duties range from going to church with her to meet the priest to assembling Save the Date! cards. You could only imagine my excitement, you know since I'm a full time student and all. So the problem kicks in that my sister doesn't understand that I go to school 4 days a week and I work the other 3 days. Sigh and to think this is only the beginning.. she has filled my sundays with running various errands and looking for reception halls. As opposed to my Sundays that I would usually fill with work and school work. My greatest fear is as we get closer to the wedding Bridezilla over there is going to control every aspect of my time, and as her sister I do feel the duty to please her. Classes this semester aren't that easy and next semester and the one after aren't looking too fun either, so now its school vs. family. It'll be loads of finance homework and dressing fittings. oh joy.
I'm sure I'll survive or just argue with my sister the whole way through but hopefully.. hopefully.. I'll find a balance.
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Oh my...I feel for you. I actually film weddings and I've seen a lot of situations. It usually all works out in the end and everybody is happy but it can be very challenging for bridesmaids, the maid of honor and of course the groom. There is so much pressure with everything and depending on the size of the wedding, it is a ton of work. Some hire wedding planners (the weddings I film usually have one) but in general people cannot afford a them, their rates are often quite high.
Once I sat in a nail studio when I overheard two girls talking about their experiences. The bride demanded that the bridesmaids all have to get the exact same nail polish. She was dead serious about this. One apparently didn't obey and the bride was totally flipping out and it completely ruined their relationship. The other girl was saying how she had to buy this ugly bridesmaids dress and shoes for $1000 in her least favored color. The bride was insisting that all the girls had to get the same dress. All of them were very upset that they had to spend that much money for something they didn't like. It also ruined their friendship with the bride.
I'm sure your sister is not like that. I hope she will understand though how difficult and time consuming it is to study finance. You also need some downtime for yourself! November 09 is a long way to go, I wish you all the best and maybe one of your family members can step in and help out so you can focus on school and do well.
I kind of understand what you're in. I have two sisters and one just got married on May 31. She's living happily now but before that date, it was chaos for my whole family. My other sister was the maid of honor and some nights they'd stay up together making cards, pictures, menus, lists, and it goes on and on. The planning is ridiculous but in the end, my sister said it all worth it. So yeah, it's going to be tough, but I'm sure the end results will make you and your sister more than happy to have gone through the planning.
By the way, the Boathouse in Central Park was really nice. You should look into it if you haven't already. :)
i cannot fully relate to the situation that you have posted but i will provide a solution...hopefully. i think that the easiest way to solve your problem is to sit your sister down and tell her that even though her wedding is a very important event your schoolwork is also a very important part of your life as well. show her your schedule and show her the times that you have available. if you both find out that there is no real time that you are both available then try to have a place (blogger.com for instance) and write to eachother in a timely fashion so tbat if you have a spare 15 minutes or so that you can write whatever thoughts you have about planning or what the groom should wear or who is going to host the bachelorette party.
if worst comes to worse...run for the hills and hope that bridezilla doesnt come crashing down on them...
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